It’s common to experience difficulties with perfectionism tendencies in the perinatal and parenthood periods.

Perfectionism can feel like it keeps you on track, but the problem is it often links your worth to negative self-evaluation. When every outcome becomes a measure of your value, the pressure can be relentless.

You might catch yourself thinking,
💭 I am not a good parent
💭 I should know how to do this
💭 I have to get it right

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Over time, this can take a real toll. You may feel anxious, stressed, burnt out, or low in confidence. You might notice you are focusing on past mistakes, overworking to exhaustion, or struggling to make decisions at all.

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Perfectionism is not the same as doing your best. It is chasing a moving target that never feels enough.

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Try telling yourself, “I am learning as I go,” and allow some things to be good enough. Notice how your body feels when you release even a little of that pressure.

Seeking support to explore perfectionism tendencies can be helpful.